7/25/11
Stephen & Veronica's Wedding, The Popponessett Inn, Mashpee, MA
Steven & Trish's Wedding, Private Estate, Plymouth MA
Andrew & Kristin's Wedding, Wychmere Beach Club, Harwich, MA
Dustan & Priscilla's Wedding, The Kelly Chapel, Yarmouth, MA
7/22/11
Dan & Kelly's Wedding, Red River Beach, Dennis, MA
7/21/11
Sage Virginia's Baptism, Chatham Bars Inn, Chatham, MA
Ian & Janey's Wedding, The Daniel Webster Inn, Sandwich, MA
The Velveteen Rabbit
by Margery Williams
"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When someone loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
The service then concluded with Ian and Janey sharing their custom vows, exchanging rings, and Ian's breaking of the glass. By introduction, I explained to their guests:
"There have been many stories explaining the breaking of the glass. For those of us here today, it serves to remind us of several very important aspects of a marriage. Janey and Ian and everyone should consider these marriage vows as an irrevocable act, just as permanent and final, as the breaking of this glass is unchangeable. The shattered glass also reminds us how fragile life and love can be. That sometimes a single thoughtless act, breech of trust, or marital misstep can damage a marriage in ways that are very difficult to undo, just as it would be difficult to undo the breaking of the glass. It serves as a reminder of the sanctity of marriage, and that the love of Janey and Ian should last for as long as it would take to make the glass perfectly whole again. It also symbolizes the transforming experience that marriage creates, leaving the bride and groom forever changed."
I am so grateful for having been selected to perform your special wedding ceremony. Congratulations Ian and Janey!
Kristian & Julie's Wedding, The Wequassett Inn, Chatham, MA
Love by Roy Croft
I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out. I love you for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart, and passing over all the foolish, weak things that you can't help dimly seeing there, and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful belongings that no one else had looked quite far enough to find. I love you because you are helping me to make of the lumber of my life not a tavern, but a temple out of the works of my every day, not a reproach, but a song. I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy. You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself.
Once Kristian and Julie performed the sand ceremony, shared their custom vows, and exchanged wedding rings, I pronounced them to be "husband and wife" amidst the thunderous applause of their guests.
Congratulations Kristian and Julie! May you always share love, happiness, and as Connor showed us, the spirit of playfulness in your lives!